Need help in choosing a Vibrator or Sex Toy? - Vibrator / Sex Toy Buying Guide For Women

How to select the perfect Vibrator by Kimberly F.  - President of SpicyGear.com

The most frequently asked question I receive on a daily basis is...
"With so many different vibrators and sex toys on the market, how can I ever find the adult toy that's best for me?

Though this question is by no means an easy one to answer, the following should make it much easier for you to find the perfect product.

Here are the most important questions to ask yourself when trying to select a new product..

1.) What type of pleasure are you looking to achieve?
Vibrators come in many sizes, shapes, colors, materials. Let's forget about color and shapes for now (these are not used for decorating the house) and concentrate on the most important point. Orgasm type.  All sex toys are made for a reason - to help achieve orgasm. Now the big question is what type of orgasm are you looking to achieve and what is the difference between them?

• Clitoral Vibrators

Achieved by stimulation of the clitoris, is by far one of the fastest, and for some woman most powerful orgasm techniques. The intensity of clitoral stimulation can greatly increase the power of clitoral stimulation, in fact, many woman have had such powerful orgasm from clitoral stimulation that they literally "cum" and experience female ejaculation. Though every woman enjoys clitoral stimulation with a different level of intensity, I highly recommend finding a vibrator with adjustable levels of intensity. That way you can start of with a slow "hum" work your way up to "full power" and once you begin to orgasm go back to slow. Doing so will make the orgasm much more powerful, and easier once the clit becomes too sensitive to touch.

My favorites are listed below and each has its strong points.
Hitachi Magic Wand -Simply the Best and Strongest Vibrator Made Today and it's Massager Design makes it very discreet.
I Vibe Booster Rocket - Our ever popular Pocket Rocket Vibrator with 50 Sensational Combinations of Vibration
G-2 Pocket Rocket - Simple, Slightly more power, Adjustable speed
Impulse Bunny Arouser - Easy to use and multi-speed! Let the rabbit ears massage you to orgasmic bliss.
GT69 Travel Bunny - Made to plug into a cigarette lighter. This is the most unbelievable product I have ever used!.
LELO NEA - Ergonomic Design, and very discreet in appearance. It's Ideal for Great and Easy To Spot Clitoral Stimulation. Multi Speed & Rechargeable

• Traditional Vibrators

- For internal Vaginal Vibration

Achieved by insertion into the vagina. The formula for a great Vaginal orgasm is: a good product + the right user = total bliss! What I mean is quite simple. Picture yourself having sex with your dream man (or woman), you know exactly what you like; hard, fast, slow, deep or maybe you like a fast in and out. So What's my point...You control the intensity, You Control Your Own Orgasm. I am sure you can figure that out, and maybe it warrants some exploration. Try varying the way you use the product to what feels good to you.

As for types of product, these too come in may forms. Some woman like the phallic feel of a soft dildo, others like the powerful buzz of a traditional vibe. Again this is your choice. One nice thing about many of these vaginal type vibes is that many have bumps, ribs, pearls and veins, all designed to enhance the experience. One is sure to please and stimulate spots you may not know you had.

My Favorite Vaginal Products:
Flexi Nubby Lover | 8" Jelly Rapture | Velvet Hugs | Vibratex Satin | LELO IRIS | Night Rider Stud | Hot & Smooth | Vivid Dreams Savanna

• Dual Action Vibrators (Vaginal & Clitoral Simultaneously)

Done with the goal of having a vaginal and clitoral orgasm simultaneously. In my opinion this is the most earth shattering of all orgasms, even more so then the infamous G-Spot orgasm. The technique is quite easy, and can be done in a variety of ways. Most woman first learn the effects of dual stimulation while being penetrated vaginally, while the clitoris is being massaged. Some of the new toys on the market make this form of orgasm unbelievable by adding rotating movement, gyrating penis heads, vibrating clit stimulators and textured shafts all of which have lead to some of the most unbelievable orgasms ever. Because of this I recommend these potent products as orgasm machines, and though the great ones are costly ( Ultimate Orgasm, Total Decadence, Decadent indulgence, I Rabbit, Rabbit Pearl, Impulse Jack Rabbit.)
There are also good products that will get the job done and at a lower price ( the Spicy Rabbit , Spicy Rabbit Supreme.)

Dual Area Vibrators are the ones we receive the most positive feedback on from our customers (Especially Our Spicy Rabbit Vibrator & Total Decadence Kit ), and the most business from their friends based on how much they like them. Whether this is your first sex toy purchase or your 500th, a dual action vibrator is the best of both worlds.

• Triple Stimulation Vibrators - (Vaginal , Anal & Clitoral Simultaneously)

Taking the next step from the Dual Area Vibrators, Triple Play vibrators throw an extra pleasure punch into the mix. The multi-tasking marvels are designed to provide sexual stimulation to your three erogenous zones – Vagina, Clitoris, and Anus sending you to new orgasmic heights. , Many of the triple play vibrators are designed with the ability to adjust each feature for your added comfort. One thing is for sure, if you want to experience an intense orgasm that you may have never felt before, triple play vibrators may be the perfect purchase for you.


Our recommendations: Vibrating Diva Pleaser, Cunning Cactus, Dreamboat, Asian Odyssey, 8" Ribbed Bunny Vibe

• G Spot Vibrators
This is not as hard to achieve as many people think. The problem is three fold.   A.) People try to hard to find the G-spot B.) Some woman find the urge to pee too powerful to achieve the g-spot orgasm C.) Some woman do not respond to G-Spot Stimulation period.
Many men (and woman) get turned on by the thought of a woman ejaculating massive streams of ejaculate while they achieve a g-spot climax. Unfortunately, most woman do not have the ability to do so from this form of stimulation alone. When done properly G-spot stimulation brings on an uncomfortable urge to urinate, and many of you stop the exploration at that point, and I assume without thinking about what could happen if the woman would relax and just go with it.

In many cases this feeling is the beginning sign of a G-spot orgasm soon to follow, for others it means absolutely nothing. So How Can You Tell? Well you really can't, again it is all about sexual exploration and trying new things. I will say this for those woman who are afraid to continue on after feeling the urge to pee. I have never heard of any woman accidentally peeing on their lover from that feeling. Ever. Remember this sensation normally subsides in a short while and gives way to feelings of intense sexual pleasure. During stimulation, the area also typically enlarges to about the size of a walnut. In addition, some women report that stimulation of this region allows them to routinely experience multiple orgasms.

Tips on finding the G-Spot: The exact location of the G-spot varies slightly from woman to woman. It is normally found about two inches in from the opening of the vagina, on the anterior wall (toward the stomach). The G-spot is easier to locate by a partner if the woman is lying on her belly with her hips slightly elevated. When in this position, one's partner should apply light pressure to the vaginal wall with two or three fingertips while pressing down (towards the bed). If a woman chooses to lie on her back, she or her partner can insert a finger or two into her vagina, then slightly curve their fingers upwards as if making a "come hither" motion.

Suggested Products :
Spicy G | Night Rider G-Spot | Berman Center Adonis  | Tsunami G-Spot Vibrator | Ribbed G | Pearl G | Rock Chick | Jelly G-Spot  | Hot & Smooth | Royal G | Night Moves Tease | Scoop Lover | Jenna's Velvet G | Flexi Sweet G-Spot

• Anal Vibrators
Not for all woman, but to those that do enjoy it, they enjoy it for many reasons. Anal orgasm is very possible when done properly, and when the female partner feels "into it".
Women experience pleasure from anal sex in a variety of different ways. The anal region is so rich in nerve endings that stimulating such an erogenous zone could certainly bring you to orgasm. Some women like to combine clitoral stimulation with anal penetration. The orgasm definitely feels different, it feels stronger, more intense, and more like a full-body orgasm, rather than one primarily centered between your legs. Although we don't have a prostate gland like men, women do have a G-spot. The G-spot is reached through the front wall of the vagina, but it can also be indirectly stimulated through anal penetration. If you angle a finger, toy, or penis towards the front wall of the vagina, you may experience G-spot stimulation via anal penetration and come that way.

In addition to the bundle of physical pleasure that anal stimulation brings, there are complex emotional and psychological issues which contribute to the erotic experience. For some people, the idea that anal sex is naughty, forbidden and taboo is very exciting, and adds to their enjoyment of it. For me, the amount of trust I must have in my partner heightens my physical pleasure. Anal sex is my way of saying, "Here is a delicate part of my body, and I trust you not to hurt me but to make me feel very good." That power exchange can be very intense. A world of orgasmic possibilities await you.

Suggested Products:  Back Door Rotator | Scorpion Stinger | Tush Teaser  | Vibrating Anal Plug |  Lollipopper

• Top Shelf Vibrators
What do we consider a top shelf vibrator? Top Shelf Vibrators are our best of the best in quality and construction. These are the vibrators that are constructed of durable high grade materials such as medical grade silicon that will endure years of frequent use. Our Top Shelf Vibes also have a more realistic feel, with quality internal parts.

We recommend: I Vibe Rabbit | Rechargeable Jack Rabbit | Velvet Vibrator | Rechargeable Beaded Butterfly | Rabbit Pearl | Elastomer Rabbit Habit | Crafty Caterpillar | Ultimate Orgasm | Total Decadence | Magic Spot Sweet G | The Cone | B3 Onye

2.) How Much Power Can You Handle?
Remember, as a general rule of thumb, the more powerful the vibrator, the louder the vibrator. Though that is not always the case, it holds true nine out of ten times.

I tell everyone to pick a vibrator with mulispeed adjustment ( ps- All of the products on our website will say if they are multi-speed ). This way you can adjust the vibrator's power from mild to wild depending on your mood and your personal sensitivity level.

The Most Powerful - The Sybian (It's a Riding Machine and cost $1300)

Powerful Electric Powered Toys - Wahl 7 in 1 | Hitachi Magic Wand

As for Battery Operated.
The Most Powerful Clit Stimulators - G-2 Pocket Rocket | i-Vibe Booster Rocket | Berman Center Athena
The Most Powerful Vaginal Vibes -  | Night Rider Stud | Night Rider Ballsy | Jumbo 11 | Hot & Smooth Vibe
Most Powerful Dual Action - Spicy Rabbit | Decadent Indulgence | I Vibe | Decadent Indulgence 3 | Indulgence 2 | Rechargeable Jack Rabbit

Note: Throughout our website we show the power rating for each product from 1 (Not Powerful) to 10 (Most Powerful)

3.) How Big And What Texture?
This is all about comfort. How much can you comfortably handle in length and width? For most woman a dildo that is 14" long and 6" wide would be quite painful for others it might be just what they are looking for. Throughout or website, we give you some stats on the length and girth of each product along with product info. With this you should be able to find that perfect product.

If your looking for a Mini Vibrator to put in the glove box of your mini Cooper!
Dr. Z Lighted Massager | GT69 Travel Bunny | Laya Spot | LELO NEA | Discreet intimates | Incognito Lipstick Vibrator | G-2 Pocket Rocket | Pocket Rocket JR | Clit Lick

Looking For Something Long and Thick? I Suggest any of these products that should fill you up...
| Jumbo 11" | Wild Veined Rider | Devil Dick | 8" White Vibrating Dildo | 8" Black Dildo | John Holmes Dildo (Our Largest Toy) | Adam Dexter Cock | Ron Jeremy Realistic Dildo | Ejaculating Peter North Vibrating Dildo | Dick Rambone Realistic Dildo

4.) Will a Spouse Or Lover Use This Product With You?
Or is it only for your own Personal Pleasure?

Why is this important? Well depending on your lover, it might not be. But with some men, jealousy may be an issue. For potentially jealous spouses it is best to find a product that will not bring thoughts of "cheating" into their head... At least not yet. It may sound silly but in reality some men will feel uncomfortable around an 8" realistic looking dildo, and may feel that they are competing against it, others find the idea quite a turn on. That can cause some very uncomfortable feelings during and after the act. And please understand that 99% of men find the act of watching a woman masturbate with sex toys a huge turn on.
If this is an issue or potential issue.

• Clone Yourself
This product has reached superstar status. Many our Military Men have been molding themselves for their lovers. What better way to experience him until he returns home! This kit is also ideal for the first time experimenting couple and molding your lover's penis is also quite a turn on. Simply follow the directions and viola! Check it out: Body Double Kit >

• For The Adventurous Couple
We love the endless opportunities and excitement you can experience with the The Love Swing . Whether you hook it up above your bed, the radar arch of your boat or on a tree limb out back ( heck get the Swing Stand and use it in the back of your pick-up truck!) we are positive you will experience new bliss. A simple trip to Home Depot, and for $5 you can buy a spinning shackle and ride your lover while you rotate on his penis. Incredible! He will Love It! I am always interested in new ways to use it so Send in your pictures!

• For The Woman Who Never Gets Enough
You know who who are! You love to orgasm and you are try-sexual (willing to try anything once.)  You have tried every toy and think they are all inferior.  You and your partner want to experience a whole new level! It's time to bite the big one and get The Sybian Machine. The Sybian is the Original Wonder Toy and has no equal. Although this product is the Most Expensive we carry ($1300.00) it is by far and away the best for mind blowing, intense orgasm.  It is a product that you straddle and ride.  It features a base that rotates along with an unbelievable clitoral stimulator.  I can't even attempt to accurately describe this product or its intensity.

Still have questions or are not sure what to get?

I hope this article helps you to Explore Yourself and experience many orgasms!!  If you are looking for more of our favorite products please read the following articles: Sex Toy Reviews | Vibrator Reviews | SpicyGear names the 10 Best Sex Toys | Or if you have a Question about a product  Ask Us Here >
~ Kimberly