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Advice for Couples New to Anal Sex

Anal sex for many couples is a big step in their relationship. It shows a sign of love and above all, trust.

Masturbation Aides For Men – It’s Not All About The Vibrator
When we think of sex toys, we think of your typical vibrator or dildo. However, there are a vast amount of products on the market specifically for men.
Sex Toys For Couples? Amazing Toys for Both To Share!
Are you looking to turn up the heat during bedroom play? These products will add a little zest to your most intimate moments with your lover.
Shopping For Bedroom Toys Without the Embarrassment
Shopping for your bedroom toys can be a difficult task for some people.
Powerful Sex Toys Without The Roar
Powerful sex toys are not necessarily as loud as lawn mowers. There are several vibrators on the market that we recommend that still generate the intense vibrations without the loud noise.

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Erogenous Zone Road Maps  SexEd Erogenous Zone Road Maps Feed

A Mans Guide to Finding Her G-Spot
Unlike men, women can orgasm several different ways, via clitoral, vaginal, or G-Spot stimulation.
Female ejaculation
Female ejaculation (also known colloquially as squirting or gushing) refers to the expulsion of noticeable amounts of clear fluid by human females from the paraurethral ducts and/or urethra during orgasm. The exact source of the fluid is debated, although some researchers believe it originates from the Skene's gland.
The Penis - A Road Map
The Penis Is a multipurpose organ responsible for sexual pleasure, reproduction, and the passage of both urine and semen the end of the penis is called the glans which contains the urethral opening that allows urine and semen to pass from the body.
The Vagina
Many women need clitoral stimulation during sex and many men have no idea where to find it. So there are a couple of things that need to be sorted out here.
The G-Spot
Finding Your G-Spot Explained - A G-spot Road Map

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Better Sex & How To  SexEd Better Sex Feed

That Awful Sex Toy Smell
Q. “ I just received my brand new adult toy and it has an unusual smell to it. What do I Do?".
Introduction to Better Sex
The more you know about your body, the more fun you can have with it.
20 Tips On Reaching Orgasm
A common concern I hear from my female clients involves difficulty in reaching orgasm. Here are some hints that I have found to be helpful:
Kegal Exercises For Better Sex
A kegel is the name of a pelvic floor exercise, named after Dr. Kegel who discovered the exercise.
Feng Shui Your Love Life
If your love life is pretty non-existent, or your relationship seems to be going nowhere fast, then check out our guide to spring cleaning your love life with Feng Shui.

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The Latest Sex Related Headlines  The Latest Sex Related Headlines

101 Days of Sex: How One Married Couple 'Just Did It'

A married couple of 11 years decide to embark on a marathon of having sex for 101 consecutive days.

Sexually Frustrated And Married

A sexually frustrated woman comes to realize that she needed to make a change in her life.

FOXSexpert: The Joys of Summer Sex

What is it about the summer season that makes us more aroused?  Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc that discusses why we are more sexually charged during the summer months.

Sex Toy Evolution - More than Penis Shaped Vibrators

Examples of sex toys that you are unique in shape, and that are worth checking out.

We-Vibe Insertable Intercourse Vibrator - Is this the new trend in Sex Toys?

We-Vibe Vibrator ReviewUnique in design, this revolutionary product is the first ever toy that can be used while making love. The innovative design allows for both external and internal stimulation for women engaging in both solo and partner play. A Vibrator you insert while you are having sex? Can it be...

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Question Of The Week

Lynne Santiago MS, LMHC

Lynne is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and Certified Sex Therapist with a private practice in Tampa, FL. Lynne received advanced, specialized training in sexual health and human sexuality from the Academy of Clinical Sexologists ... Read More About Lynne Santiago »

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Q. I have been with this girl for about six months. We have a decent sexual relationship but I think we are both very apprehensive. We both wait for the other person to make the first move. Well I am just looking for new ways to spice up our relationship. I bought the ultimate jack rabbit and the diving dolphin toys from the site for Christmas. She has never used them nor have I. I don?t know how to introduce it. Also we are not into anal but I know that touching around the area is can add to the feelings? I don?t want to shock her but do I just go for it or talk about it first. ~ Thanks T.M.

Dear T.M.,
It sounds like you and your girl friend are in for a very fun and exciting Christmas!

You mention that there is still some shyness around sex on both your parts?which is not surprising given the length of the relationship. These things take time and your sexual relationship is always evolving. You may want to feel her out a little, by suggesting to her that you explore a sex toy site, like spicygear.com, together. Observe her reaction to the things on the site, ask her questions about what seems appealing to her. Be honest with her about the things that turn you on or you are curious about.

You mention that you are ?not into anal? but it does sound like you are very curious and may be into it more than you know right now. It is true that the anal area and anus is very sexually responsive. The ?diving dolphin? toy you purchased is perfect for stimulating her anus so if she hasn?t explored that possibility yet, she may be in for a delightful surprise!
~Lynne Santiago

~ Lynne Angela Santiago, MS, LMHC
Licensed Psychotherapy & Consulting Services
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