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Advice for Couples New to Anal Sex

Anal sex for many couples is a big step in their relationship. It shows a sign of love and above all, trust.

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When we think of sex toys, we think of your typical vibrator or dildo. However, there are a vast amount of products on the market specifically for men.
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Are you looking to turn up the heat during bedroom play? These products will add a little zest to your most intimate moments with your lover.
Shopping For Bedroom Toys Without the Embarrassment
Shopping for your bedroom toys can be a difficult task for some people.
Powerful Sex Toys Without The Roar
Powerful sex toys are not necessarily as loud as lawn mowers. There are several vibrators on the market that we recommend that still generate the intense vibrations without the loud noise.

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A Mans Guide to Finding Her G-Spot
Unlike men, women can orgasm several different ways, via clitoral, vaginal, or G-Spot stimulation.
Female ejaculation
Female ejaculation (also known colloquially as squirting or gushing) refers to the expulsion of noticeable amounts of clear fluid by human females from the paraurethral ducts and/or urethra during orgasm. The exact source of the fluid is debated, although some researchers believe it originates from the Skene's gland.
Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot

Here is a great video that may help you to find the most sensational erogenous zone. The G-Spot.

The Penis - A Road Map
The Penis Is a multipurpose organ responsible for sexual pleasure, reproduction, and the passage of both urine and semen the end of the penis is called the glans which contains the urethral opening that allows urine and semen to pass from the body.
The Vagina
Many women need clitoral stimulation during sex and many men have no idea where to find it. So there are a couple of things that need to be sorted out here.

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That Awful Sex Toy Smell
Q. “ I just received my brand new adult toy and it has an unusual smell to it. What do I Do?".
Introduction to Better Sex
The more you know about your body, the more fun you can have with it.
20 Tips On Reaching Orgasm
A common concern I hear from my female clients involves difficulty in reaching orgasm. Here are some hints that I have found to be helpful:
Kegal Exercises For Better Sex
A kegel is the name of a pelvic floor exercise, named after Dr. Kegel who discovered the exercise.
Feng Shui Your Love Life
If your love life is pretty non-existent, or your relationship seems to be going nowhere fast, then check out our guide to spring cleaning your love life with Feng Shui.

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Gauntlet Opinion: The sexiness of spots

Since the discovery of the G-spot, women everywhere have been trying to uncover the truth behind this mysterious and astonishing little body part. The Grafenberg spot was named after its official discoverer, gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg in 1944. If you pick up a book on tantric sex, however, you find that practitioners have been playing with this "sacred spot" for over a millennium.

101 Days of Sex: How One Married Couple 'Just Did It'

A married couple of 11 years decide to embark on a marathon of having sex for 101 consecutive days.

Sexually Frustrated And Married

A sexually frustrated woman comes to realize that she needed to make a change in her life.

FOXSexpert: The Joys of Summer Sex

What is it about the summer season that makes us more aroused?  Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc that discusses why we are more sexually charged during the summer months.

Sex Toy Evolution - More than Penis Shaped Vibrators

Examples of sex toys that you are unique in shape, and that are worth checking out.

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I'm totally infatuated with a friend of mine at work and she is straight.

Lynne Santiago MS, LMHC

Lynne is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and Certified Sex Therapist with a private practice in Tampa, FL. Lynne received advanced, specialized training in sexual health and human sexuality from the Academy of Clinical Sexologists ... Read More About Lynne Santiago »

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Q. I don't know if you'd be able to answer my question. It took me while to realize from my past sexual relationships that I am a lesbian. I've dated men and have had sex with them but I've never really had *orgasms*, I love the female body, and have made out with women during college and I've had more orgasms in one night than I have with the male relationships. I already have low self-esteem about my image but how would I go about *coming out* about being a lesbian when my family and friends expect me to marry a man? I don't know what to do? I'm totally infatuated with a friend of mine at work and she is straight. Help!

Coming out to friends and family can be very difficult but living unauthentically can be more so. It often takes much courage to live life being true to yourself. And it often takes a lot of support from friends and family. There is a wonderful website that provides excellent information and guidance regarding the ‘coming out process’. It is www.hrc.org . Then click on the “Coming Out” link. Much luck to you.

~ Lynne Angela Santiago, MS, LMHC
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