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My penis is about 4 inches long when hard, and I'm scared to have sex.

Lynne Santiago MS, LMHC

Lynne is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and Certified Sex Therapist with a private practice in Tampa, FL. Lynne received advanced, specialized training in sexual health and human sexuality from the Academy of Clinical Sexologists ... Read More About Lynne Santiago »

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Q. I'm 21 and I have a small penis. It's about 4 inches long when hard. I'm scared to have sex because I'm a virgin and the 4 inches is embarrassing. I think women will laugh at me. Please help me.

So it does seem that your penis size falls in the "small" range according to various studies and I can understand that you may feel embarrassed especially given the way our society tends to connect masculinity and desirability to the size of one's penis. And I will not lie…there are some women who will say "size matters"…however, this is not ALL women. In fact, ask a woman what she wants most in a partner I'll bet the word penis won't be mentioned. What you will hear are things like "some one who listens", "someone who shares similar interests", "someone who can communicate". My recommendation for you is to start getting involved in activities that you enjoy and that will put you around like-minded women. Start slow by getting to know someone, dating, spending quality time together. There are many
women who would appreciate a man who has a desire to get to know them, rather than getting them in bed quickly. When you find someone you trust and feel a connection to the sexual relationship will evolve naturally.

~ Lynne Angela Santiago, MS, LMHC
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