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Advice for Couples New to Anal Sex

    Posted by Kimberly Fidi on 12/04/2007

Anal sex for many couples is a big step in their relationship. It shows a sign of love and above all, trust.



Anal sex for many couples is a big step in their relationship. It shows a sign of love and above all, trust. The problem for many couples is how to make anal sex more comfortable for both of you.   Many couples are worry that anal sex may be painful. However, anal sex can be quite pleasurable for both partners. The muscles and nerves around the anus are extremely sensitive which can result in a major orgasmic experience. If you and your partner are planning to experiment with anal sex, here are a few tips on making your experience a good one.

Breath, don't forget to breathe, relax put on some smooth romantic music, music that will make you, just relax. Light some candles, set the mood. It also wouldn't help to have a nice massage in the beginning to get the juices flowing.  

The use of a Personal Lubricant is very important when engaging in anal sex (You can even try a lube with Benzocaine that will numb the area and make it less painful). This way there is no skin on skin rubbing. This could cause rashes, abscesses or worse even PAIN, to which you may never try this again. Here are some personal lubricants that we recommend that are specifically for anal sex. The lubricants are thicker than average for more safer and comfortable anal sex.

AnalEse – Anal lubricant that contains Benzocaine to reduce the initial discomfort of insertion while its lubricating properties allow ease of penetration.

AstroGlide Shooters Anal Lube - Each package contains six individually wrapped lube applicators that can be inserted where you want before you play. Allows for no mess application. This lube is a water-based anal lubricant that is thick enough and long lasting for a pleasurable anal sex experience.

China Anal Balm – This lubricating cream contains the maximum amount allowed of Benzocaine which takes the sting out of anal sex. This is the strongest over the counter formula of Benzocaine. The numbing effect lasts between 10-20 minutes. Cherry scented flavored and oil free for ease of removal.

Start out slow. Be gentle. Do not force anything. Let it come naturally. Try using a finger at first then a small anal vibrator or anal plug to start with before having anal intercourse with your partner. Take your time be gentle, make this comfortable for you and your partner. Take it in steps, with each session you will gradually become more comfortable and be able to enjoy yourself with your partner.

Last and most important  " COMMUNICATE " Talk to your partner. If it doesn't feel good try it another way. If you need to slow down say slow down. Communication is the key. By following these steps you and your partner will be able to relax, breath, lube, and communicate to the point of " No accidents ".

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RONDA     Posted on Jan-11-2008
JUST THOUGHT THIS WAS INTERESTING
Chantel     Posted on May-05-2008
I found this interesting. My husband and I have tried it before but I could never do it because I couldn't relax or I didn't feel comfortable about it. Now that I know there are special lubes and stuff, I'm definately ready to give it another try.

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