My boyfriend disapproves using a vibrator.
Posted by John Fidi on 11/01/2006 in Lynne's Advice Q & A
Dear N.B.,
Sounds like your boyfriend may be feeling a bit threatened by that titillating sex toy. He may be thinking that you are questioning his own sexual abilities, as if he is not enough. Men like competition, but for some, the vibrator is a contender they think they can’t beat!
You can help change this thinking by using it on him first. Give your boyfriend a whole body wake up call by moving the vibrator along his body from head to toe, slowing travel toward his inner thighs and up closer to his genitals. Apply a bit more pressure around his scrotum and up and down the shaft of his penis. During intercourse, hold the vibrator at the base of his scrotum as he thrusts. This should give him a pretty powerful orgasm!
Another option…suggest some mutual masturbation, where you both watch the other self-pleasure. Use the vibrator on yourself. Men love to watch and once he sees how hot you get, he won’t be able to get that image of you out of his mind! He’ll realize that the vibrator can be an extension of himself rather than an additional bedfellow competing for your pleasure.
