We haven't had sex in the last 3 and half years.
Posted by Kim Fidi on 06/01/2007 in Lynne's Advice Q & A
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You are right. You can’t fix this alone. It sounds like you’ve been very understanding and empathetic toward your husband and you’ve been willing to put your needs aside for a while as he recovered. But there does come a time when your needs need to be recognized. It is always a good thing to have open communication with your partner about your intimate relationship. This involves being truthful about your sexual desires and needs. What I recommend is that you open the dialog with your husband and suggest spending some time in sensual play. This means no intercourse so the pressure is off to “perform”. It is possible that medications, particularly pain meds, may be affecting your husbands sexual desire and arousal. Taking the pressure off by spending time in erotic, sensual touching with out the goal of intercourse and orgasm can help you and your husband rebuild your intimate relationship. Spicygear offers a DVD titled “Tantric Message”. Watching this DVD with your husband would be an excellent way to open up the communication and learn new ways to pleasure each other.
