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By Lynne A. Santiago, Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) & Certified Sex Therapist 
 

Monday, October 22, 2007
There will always be a curiosity about sex toys and whether they can enhance your sex life and sexual stimulation. The thought of introducing a sex toy into your bedroom does not mean that you or the other person are not sexually satisfied or less attracted to the other; you may even want it for yourself, and why not? Sex toys and tools can be a great twist on your everyday sex-capades that can bring a new element of excitement and adventure. Sex toys are not a new concept either: we've come a long way, but some of the first sex toys date back to Ancient Greece.

We are all familiar and sometime bombarded with all the gadgets available to enhance stimulation. The oldest sex toy, referred as the olisbos, got its debut in 500 BC in Greece. Better known as "dildos," they were constructed of stone, leather and sometimes wood--watch for splinters--and were tools bought mostly by single women. Italy jumped on board with the idea and in 350 BC re-named the olisbos to diletto, from the Italian word for "delight." The Italians brought olive oil into the equation as a lubrication tool, which is still used today (however, condom users want to steer clear of this lube, as mentioned in an earlier column).

Dildos are only one sex toy on the current market and we continue to create and build our inventory of pleasure producers. Since the late industrial era, not only did we produce a superior dildo by using rubber instead of housing and clothing materials, we also pulled a Tim Taylor and eventually built a motor for our tool. Prescribed to treat "hysteria" in women, vibrators were disguised as massagers, since women were not seen to be sexual beings.

The list continues from c-rings to love swings and women aren't the only ones with appetites. Masturbation sleeves and blow-up dolls are just two toys out there to satisfy any man's solo sexual activity, or to be incorporated into foreplay.

It would be wrong to ignore all the toys accessible for foreplay-enhancement as well, as these also fall under the sex toy category. Pornography, being one of the top choices, brings a voyeuristic feeling, along with some great ideas for you to try. Games such as Dirty Dice, where one die has different body parts and the other die gives you actions, can be a fun spin on what to do when you've stroked and kissed all the regular hot points. There is an enormous selection of edible products made of all-natural ingredients that invite your partner to discover all sorts of erogenous zones you may not have even known about.

Let's not neglect the sexiest toy we all possess: the brain. We are only as restricted as our imagination and even then we have all kinds of resources to give us ideas.

The most important thing to remember about introducing sex toys to the bedroom is communication with the person you share them with. Make sure both of you are comfortable. This could mean starting small and working up to friskier things later. Toys are no longer just for kids, but sorry to say, batteries are still not included. This Christmas, if your partner is the person that has every thing, drop into your local sex store for something that will you light you up as bright as the lights on your tree.

SOURCE: Lesley-ann Barrett, Gauntlet Sexpert, gauntlet.ucalgary.ca

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posted by Jennifer @ 7:42 AM 

Lynn SantiagoLynne Santiago
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Lynne's Advice

September 2007

>.... ME and my boyfriend have been dating for four years. At first the sex was great, but like in all relationships it died down. but now we maybe have sex once every 5 to 6 weeks, maybe longer. He has a pretty hard job and a little boy. When I asked him what has happened to our sex life..

>.... Hi Lynn, i get so jealous of my boyfriends porno. I feel like he spends all of this time finding the most gorgeous women with tiptop bodies to watch. It makes me feel less than perfect even though i know i too am gorgeous with a pretty beautiful body.

August 2007

>.... When we first started having sex I didn't even know that a women could even "get off"
or in other terms, have an orgasim but it would only happen once in a blue moon. Now when we have sex it's like I can't ever get off.

>....My spouse and I have been married nearly 10 years and we now only have sex one time a year. We are both at fault. I don't know why he doesn't want to, but I'm just not turned on.....

July 2007

>....The first time we had sexy he climaxed with in 1 or 2mins. I told him not to worry because he probably wasnt used to it and would last longer in time. We have been having sex now for a good number of months but he still only takes a few minutes....

June 2007

>.... it took me while to realize from my past sexual relationships that I am a lesbian. I've dated men and have had sex with them but I've never really had *orgasms*, I love the female body.....

> I have been married to same man for 27 yrs. i love him but we haven't had sex in the last 3 and half yrs. he was hurt very badly in an accident breaking both of his legs putting him in a hospital bed for almost a year i understand that he has issues about his legs being hurt....

April 2007
> When my boyfriend and I first met our sex life was amazing some times we do it several times in one night and we both would reach an orgasm each time. but lately for the last month or so I am lucky if i can get to touch me once a week and then we do it seems he reaches an orgasm and me left wanting more.

> Am 24 and have not had sex in more than 10 year.I decided to wait for the right partner. Recently I have been feeling wet/horny and I thought buying a vibe...

> Hi! Sex with my wife has become nonexistent. Mainly my fault. I have become tired of satisfying her, and not receiving the same satisfaction back. Simply put, she doesn't try to excite me at all. I have grown bitter and refuse to continue with this charade. Taking care of her when it isn't returned sucks.

March 2007

> I'm not sure if you could answer this but.. when my boyfriend and i have sex a very light brown fluid comes out, there's no pain or anything just this fluid the first time I thought maybe the sex was a little rough but it kept happening. It hasn't just been once its been on several occasions and it freaks me out because I don't know what's wrong with me.

> First I am 47 years old and my husband is 45. We have been married almost 2 years and last July he had a heart attack. Well, he has recovered from that but our sex life has went down the toilet. He isn't interested in sex at all. I may be 47 but I am still sexually active. My husband won't do a thing to change.



Feburary 2007

> I have never had an orgasm and can't figure out why. What does it feel like? Do you always cum? I was married for over 10 years and hated having sex with my (ex) husband.

> For as long as I remember, I've never ejaculated while having vaginal intercourse. I'm fine when I masturbate, but just can't seem to get aroused enough for orgasm. What is this called? How can I fix this problem?

> I'm 21 and I have a small penis. It's about 4 inches long when hard. I'm scared to have sex because I'm a virgin and the 4 inches is embarrassing. I think women will laugh at me. Please help me.

> I have been diabetic for a few years now and even though I’m on meds for it I have completely lost all desire for sex. Is this an area where a toy would help or do I need to approach this subject more with my doctor?

> My husband has been pushing me to have anal sex. I keep saying no. I am afraid that it will hurt. I am more afraid of what it will do to my insides over the long run.. Help?


January 2007

> What is the correct way to perform Cunnilingus?

> How to Introduce a Sex Toy to the Bedroom

December 2006
> Can I get Pregnant while menstruating?

> I heard that if you don't stimulate your Clitoris or have an orgasm by a certain point in your life you do damage to it..is that true?

November 2006
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